Category Archives: A Letter to My Hubby!

Dodging Fantasy, and walking into the reality!

I guess, the time has come in order for me to end it. It’s not healthy anymore. I would say, I am currently indignant with my marriage situation I am in, but the fact that it’s not working, I have to stop it. Several girls in this world really would like to have a lifetime partner. A prince that will save them from the distress of being single, and love that a girl ever wanted. A happy every after effect, that’s what we are looking for. However, facing the harsh reality, happily ever after is not for everyone, just like me. I guess, I expect too much, and I am craving for an affection from a guy but it was dreadful. Love that is one sided and no proof of getting back would only put me in too much pain. Being martyr is not an option for me. I’ve been doing this, like for 4 years of this marriage, but I am only hurting myself in this kind of set up. I can’t take the pain anymore, and being so negative toward myself caused me too much. A collateral damage for my act of denying that someday, somewhere, miracles would happen for us. However, what Nora Aunor’s state in one of her movies: “Walang himala, nasa tao ang himala!” (There is no miracle, only human do the miracles” I deceived myself from the illusion of miracles. A miracle that he would love me, and somehow forget that girl. But some guys do really choose what their heart felt, even breaking the law. So, I did say to myself “Okay, let’s end it. Move on from our own pace.” I wouldn’t deny that maybe at some point, I’ve done something wrong. This might be the reason; I never had been into a relationship, and I never had the chance to experience the boy-girl relationship, and that’s why ended up with nothing. Being single woman is the most appropriate for me. Yeah, I might be selfish in this kind of thinking, yet I am protecting myself from going to another relationship that would end into oblivion. Is it wrong to be born as NBCB? (No Boyfriend since Birth) I guess not. It is only that one’s heart cannot be altered once it loves someone else. I don’t care about what other people says, all that matter now is letting things in order to free everyone that is involve with this parental marriage. A marriage that keeps his mother in pain, my parents who always think about my feeling, and relatives who are concern about us. I guess, once I cut the string off, it would set everyone else free. He can marry the person he loves, and free me from tying into a doubtful future. This is for the best, “That’s what I am thinking about!”

As much as possible, I wouldn’t be so negative on this post, and even say something from this pain I am feeling now, but rather, I would like to share with you guys the positive wisdom I did get from this marriage.

  1. I did find that love is such a wonderful thing. It’s no wonder that some people are addict finding this one, as it makes you happy. It’s like every day is a beautiful day. It even gives you the positive vibes, putting a smile in your cheek, and looking forward seeing that someone in the morning.
  2. I did realize my weakness, and the person who I really am.
  3. I also see the super ego deep inside me, and that I don’t have the most control of it.

I guess, that’s the high light of positive marriage life I had. However, the pain and the stress I’ve gone through is something extraordinary. I never had a painful experience in my entire life than this one, and it then follow after the other. If you’re going to ask me either I will go with the same experience or not, I guess that’s enough. I would gladly accept the fact of being single ‘til the end. Yet, I am not closing any door since Allah (saw) always has something that He destined for us to do. To tell you the truth, I don’t really know how will I coop up with this thing, but I guess I just let time heal itself. Compared to the previews years, now, my heart is somewhat calmer than the previews. I am happy that my freedom will be returned to me, yet sad because He was my FIRST LOVE. A fairy tale that came so soon, and ended so soon. Life is always imperfect, but thanks God I am alive, and I have my family, and friends whose there no matter what.

Live life to the Fullest
Live life to the Fullest

The Wandering Heart

After years, we’ve never been a real couple. Perhaps, it is me who is the reason for this or you who seems to be undecided on things you want to do in life. I always wander wither you really like me or not. I did question you this one, but the only thing you answered were silence words that the wind couldn’t even tell wither you utter a words or not. It disheartened me about this issue, but I couldn’t force you because I really am afraid that you might declare a negative words that will even give me side effects, just like a poison that could kill its patient in one drink.

I put every words on this writing because I have no one else to relay this one. Perhaps, I might be looking for someone to understand and give me the appropriate answer to my queries in your action. Or I might be hoping for you to read these words that I’m putting in this wall, because I always wanted an affection coming from you that no one else can give in this world. I am seeking love, not from a sister nor brother, not from a parent nor anyone, but only your love that I am after. Yet this one seems a light year away for me to reach. I didn’t even know if for example I would travel unto this, will I ever see myself at the end? I couldn’t tell.

Do you know that whenever you go home, you’re living a scar in my heart? Do you have a heart that could feel this wanting from a wife to her husband? Do you know that the one who is writing this one really does love you, but she’s been in doubting mood because she didn’t know you will? She couldn’t reflect herself to someone like you who put his self in a protected side of a barrier. You were planning a lot of things in your life, but do you ever think of a plan for us? I am afraid, I could tell you didn’t. It appears you don’t know what to do with me all along. I could never imagine with someone else better than you, but if ever there is someone who seems to care enough for the writer itself, who exceeds you, then maybe I couldn’t help but to hope for this one. You always left my heart a scar, and I didn’t know how long I will keep this. But remember, in everything there is always an expiration, as I said earlier, if there is someone who will go beyond you, who cares for me a lot more than you do, then let me say the word sorry but I might fell for this. You could not keep a wandering heart from wandering for your love that seems an impossible to reach.

Don’t let this heart from wandering, because someday it will grow weak from WAITING!

Wandering Heart
Wandering Heart

My Secret Love!

You thought I didn’t love you? I do love you dearly and earnestly. I could not tell you or show you much I love you so. I am looking for a thoughtful hug coming from you, a caress that will make me feel like “Im thankful that I was born for you”. I am longing for an affection coming from you my dear. But the circumstances aren’t working on us, my dear secret lover. I did dream of you last night. It was a Fajr prayer, since I didn’t see you for how many months now…from that dream I didn’t hesitate to hug you so tight as that I’ve missed you so much that it moved me to tears. You didn’t know how my heart longs for such a love that doesn’t come from anyone, but only you who could provide that to me.
I missed you, my secret love!
 
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Hoping

                As a married woman, I hoped for a good family and have a baby of my own. I was imagining myself for quite a while now like thinking “What would it be like if I had my little ones?” Will he/she inspires me? Will he/she motivates me to be at my best of all time? Will he/she gives me the happiness that I couldn’t find in this world? Maybe, if a little one comes my facebook, twitter, instagram, blogs and other related websites will be flooded with picture of her/him. I will probably flood my closet with many albums just for her/him. Every details will be important for him/her as well as for me. It brings happiness by thinking this.

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                I am always hearing so many stories about mom, and saw some friends with their little ones somehow I envy them. They tell their stories about being mom and posting pictures, and looking at them, I can see their happiness that you wouldn’t find from any single ladies. Looks that a mother only has for their little ones.  I always come to this point where I could just wish that one day I’ll have one, yet I am afraid it won’t come. As I type these words, I could almost cry imagining how happy it would be, and feeling regret of the event that be fall on me. A friend of mine told me that I might not be ready why God hasn’t given me little ones. Maybe she’s right, it now gives me the doubt if I can grow and protect a child with my own hands. Please, let me take these feelings into this writing just for once. I, also carry a burden that breaks my heart to the most that it kills me inside. As much as I want to control it, somehow it results to tears because I couldn’t carry heavily inside me.

Will we meet in the next life?

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            I am a married woman, due to some circumstances; it feels like I am still single. No husband to worry about. There is no one to whom I can hang out with. Someone whom I can call my knights in shining armour. Someone whom I can tell everything, and anything under the sun, a play mate. However, what I conceptualize is very different from my reality. It is missed up. I was left the same I was back then. I don’t know, but maybe I brought these things up to myself. We are not yet divorce because he won’t let go of me. I always asked him to release me but he wouldn’t. I fell that he doesn’t need me and that he won’t be happy with me, why is he prolonging his own agony and mine as well if our star wouldn’t let it be. I love him so dearly, but in this life we could not control over something that is already in there. I don’t like to tell my full stories since there is that issue that should be left hidden to public. So, please forgive me if I won’t go into details.

            Sometimes, I do wander if we will meet each other in the next life, (though I know this perception is not in our Holy Book except death) but I can’t help but to wander about this. Are we going to meet again? Can we love each other again? Maybe some of you will tell, “why don’t you do it now while your still at it.” As far as I’d love to do so, I couldn’t. There is that force that is stopping me to do so. Maybe one of these reasons is not being so familiar with boys. I never mingle with boys. So, I don’t know how to react in front of them. I’ve been protecting myself from them, and learned to relay more on myself, and didn’t see the wanderof relaying to someone whom you really care the most. My childhood memories about being in love to someone were being shuttered in an instant. I wanted to blame everything around; however, I don’t have the right to do so. I will keep myself in silence.

            I am not looking for a piety, but I am just venting out just for this once.

Happy Bloggings

Sunday thoughts!

I place my worries in an unknown page where no one is so familiar with. The dream i had and the memories of you will be just part of a written page created only to be read by me in years to come, and someday I will have the opportunities to laugh about it…and tell to myself “Naoh, that was during my younger years…” hehe (just taking my imagination to a leap. Happy Sunday!!!! — feeling wonderful.

401-500 ways to show your love

This will be the last set of ways to show your love to your partner. Be sure to read them all in order for you to apply it on your own. It isn’t bad if you’re going to show it, right?

 

401. Always thank him for the hard work he does.

402. Celebrate each other’s achievements, especially those that required much effort.

403. Always give each other the benefit of the doubt.

404. Praise each other in front of your friends.

405. When you’re at a wedding together, dance as if it’s all about you.

406. The next time you watch a romantic movie together, try acting out some of her favorite scenes.

407. When he say, “you look sexy in that,” wear it again, soon/

408. In five minutes or less, make lists of why you love each other and share them together.

409. IF she needs your attention, give it.

410. If she picked it out for you, wear it.

411. If she asks you to get rid of it, chuck it.

412. Listen carefully for hints of places she would like to go. Find a way to take her there.

413. If he asks you to go along, go.

414. If he asks for hints, give them.

415. If he gave it to you, use it.

416. Surprise him by making arrangements for a getaway weekend.

417. Try to anticipate each other’s needs, and fulfill them in abundance.

418. Remember that sometimes you cannot see things clearly, and those times, have trust.

419. Make sure your mate never feels lost.

420. Give each other every reason to want to snuggle before falling asleep.

421. Trust—-and be trustworthy.

422. When the two of you are in the presence of other women, always keep your eyes in her.

423. Let your “yes” mean yes, and your “no” means no.

424. Let your “I do” always mean “I won’t with anyone else.”

425. Never do anything you would not want to have to admit to the other.

426. When the two of you are in the presence of other men, always kiss him at least once for all to see.

427. If you must have a conversation with an old flame, keep it short. Don’t keep it a secret.

428. Never look to blame each other when things don’t run out as well as you wished they had.

429. Let your business with your ex be just that—business.

430. Bring home a surprise gift—just for the pleasure of seeing the reaction.

431. Wear your wedding ring every day. Wear it with pride.

432. Always stand up for each other.

433. Be quick to believe good things about each other and slow to believe bad.

434. When she walks past, reach out to touch her.

435. Remember that you are stronger together than when apart. Spend most of your time together.

436. When you are away, try to get home early if you can.

437. When one of you has been away from home, buy flowers to celebrate their return.

438. When he reaches for you, move closer.

439. Look for reasons to begin a sentence with “I really appreciate it when you…”

440. When one of you is sick, clear your schedule and spend the day taking care of the other.

441. Surprise her by adding a few of your own words to your wedding vows. She will never forget it.

442. Walk up to him and say “You may now kiss the bride.” He’ll gladly do it every time.

443. Memorize your wedding vows and repeat them on every anniversary.

444. Strive to show your love in as many ways as possible. A few ways are simply, well, too few.

445. Learn how to make her favorite drink.

446. Don’t eat off each other’s plate, but if you think you must, ask first.

447. On New Year’s Eve, celebrate till there wee hours of the morning.

448. Treat each other to a weekend brunch at a favorite restaurant.

449. Keep his favorite snack in the pantry.

450. Listen carefully for hints of things she would like to have. Surprise her by giving them as gifts at unexpected times.

451. Plan a costume part together and invite your friends. Dress alike.

452. When you’re at a party, pay more attention to each other than anyone else.

453. Always acknowledge it when she tells you, “I love you”

454. Understand that he may not always use the most obvious words to tell you he loves you.

455. Say “I love you” as often as your mate needs to hear it, not just when you feel like saying it.

456. Read the Sunday paper together. Share the stories that strike you as particularly interesting, funny, or odd.

457. If you wake up first, make a coffee or two.

458. For no particular reason, surprise your mate with a new CD by a favorite artist.

459. Do the household and yard chores together.

460. Plant your favorite flowers together in the spring.

461. Keep yourself clean and smelling fresh. She’ll appreciate it.

462. Grab quick, passionate kisses when it’s just the two of you in an elevator.

463. Stop the elevator once in a while and share a longer kiss.

464. If she is sitting in a cold draft, change places with her.

465. Shave your legs all the way up. He’ll love it.

466. In the absence of elevators, quick kisses on escalators are permitted.

467. Have a breath mint right before you get home.

468. Replace his underwear as needed.

469. Be good to each other because it is good thing to do, not because you think you’re going to get something from it.

470. Never turn down affection or make your mate work yours.

471. Be proud to be seen together in public.

472. Give your mate many reasons to respect you. Many, many.

473. Pay attention to each other’s fears and give encouragement to overcome them.

474. While at a party, surprise her by making a toast to your relationship.

475. Its better never to get drunk when you are out together, but don’t be embarrassing if you do.

476. When sadness occurs, be comforting and supporting to each other.

477. When one of you is facing a difficult challenge, help carry as much of the burden as you can.

478. While at a party, let him over hear you brag about him to someone else.

479. Be sure to attend important events in each other’s lives.

480. At the end of the year, be sure to acknowledge the helpful things that were done for you/

481. Always have at least one New Year’s Resolution about improving your relationship. Live it up.

482. Sometimes a cliché is all that comes to mind. Don’t frown when he uses one.

483. Be careful never to take out your frustrations on each other.

484. You will have a fight. Agree on the rules of engagement before you have one. Stick to the rules when you have one. Make sure “kiss and make up” is a rule.

485. Sometimes all she wants to do is talk. Listen —and don’t set a time limit.

486. Learn to count to three before you get angry. Twenty-five would be even better.

487. Never make threatening statements like. “This is your last chance!” to each other.

488. When you have had a fight, be the first to make peace. It won’t kill you.

489. Give each other butterfly kisses sometimes, especially when one of you is waking up.

490. Put a chocolate kisses on your pillows on special occasions.

491. A quiet moment is a good time to say “I love you”.

492. Never go to sleep while you are angry with each other.

493. Understand that intimacy is her gift to you, not her obligation.

494. Whenever the other person makes a suggestion, give it serious consideration.

495. Ask each other questions before jumping to wrong conclusion.

496. Be willing to grovel when you are wrong. Maybe even when you aren’t.

497. Understand that he wants to make you happy. Let him know when you are.

498. Learn how to distinguish between big issues and things that don’t matter. Overlook those that don’t matter.

499. If you are unsure if whether you can resist temptation, stay away from what may attempt you.

500. Show each other a Love sigh every day. When you have shown all that you can think of, start over and show them all again.

 

301-400 Ways to Show what’s in your heart!

       Have you already showed your partner your affection to him/her? Maybe you should try this another set of ways to show what’s in your heart! So, be sure to make them feel so special.

301. If you must travel alone, always bring a little something back for the other.

302. The next time she mentions she needs to go shopping, go with her, double her budget, and carry all the bags. Don’t complain about how long it takes.

303. When you are traveling alone, call home every day- sometimes more than once.

304. When one of you needs a hug, give two.

305. When questions are asked, be honest in your answer, but be tactful and considerate in how you answer.

306. Turn down the television when the other person is on the phone.

307. When he goes out on the town with his friends, don’t demand to know everything that happened as soon as he gets home.

308. Be sure not to monopolize the conversation, and don’t make your stories too long. After all, you’re not the only person who has something to say.

309. Don’t open or hack into each other’s mail.

310. When she goes out with her girlfriends, don’t call her every fifteen minutes to find out when she is coming home.

311. Take time to enjoy a glass of wine or a cup of tea together while sitting on the porch.

312. Make a habit of going for an evening stroll during a full moon.

313. Give most of your spare time to each other, and when it seems like there isn’t any, make some.

314. Don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to say, “Thank your for being mine.”

315. Don’t minimize or make fun of the things she does to make herself feel beautiful.

316. Don’t be jealous. Don’t be a snoop.

317. Don’t play hard to get.

318. Remember, neither of you owe the other anything. Your relationship is a gift.

319. Don’t laugh out loud at  or tell others about what he does when he doesn’t know you are watching him.

320. Never be flirtatious with each other’s friends.

321. Never compare each other to old flames or ex-spouses.

322. Slow dance together occasionally in the shower.

323. Keep scented massage oil close at hand.

324. Understand the difference between sexy and kinky. Always prefer sexy.

325. Explore each other in the dark.

326.Buy an umbrella for her to keep in her car.

327. Keep your clothes and other things picked up.

328. Don’t either of you surprise the other with cold feet on the back.

329. Paint her toenails.

330. Practice breath parity. Either both of your eat garlic, or you both should skip it.

331. Give him a grooming kit to keep at the office.

332. Wash his hair.

333. Always make him feel desirable and appreciated—especially if you want him to feel the same way about you.

334. Give her time when she needs it—she will come to you when she is ready.

335. Agree on goals that you can pursue in your life together and keep looking for new ones to add.

336. Every now and then review your goals together. Celebrate the ones that were met.

337. Remember to share the credit for all that has turned out according to your plan.

338. When she is talking to you, don’t make “hurr up” hand gestures. Keep your hands in your pockets if you have to.

339. Be sure your behavior and attitudes show that you want to be together for the rest of your lives.

340. When you kiss while stopped at a traffic light, remind each other of the first time you did that.

341. When he is trying his best to express himself, smile and hold his hand to comfort and encourage him.

342. Kiss before you leave the house, each and everytime.

343. Kiss again as soon as you get home. Times in between are okay too.

344.Never storm off when you are mad; never slam a door.

345. Never break anything in anger. Not only may you not be able to replace it, its bad form.

346. Be careful about how you talk to one another. The pain of hurtful words can last a long time.

347. Be careful not to do anything that will lessen your respect for each other.

348. It is very important to understand that no matter how well you know each other, there will always be things you don’t understand.

349. Ask when you don’t understand. Avoid guessing.

350. Remember, everyone needs a little space now and then. Respect it when it is requested.

351. Just for fun, pretend you are strangers and get to know each other again.

352. Surprise each other with a back rub now and then.

353. Always strive to learn something new about each other.

354. In your own way, reciprocate every gesture of affection made toward you.

355. When she asks, “What are you thinking about?” say something, almost anything, but never, “Nothing.”

356. Always be sure to introduce each other to anyone you meet.

357. If you say you will do something do it! If you said you won’t, don’t!

358. Never keep score of the times when you have been hurt or offended.

359. If you aren’t in the mood, that;’s okay, but do something at a later time to encourage his desire for you.

360. Resist the temptation to think yourself a relationship expert just because you saw something on TV.

361. Don’t act like you know everything. You don’t.

362. Ask for eacgh other’s opinions, and show respect by listening to the entire answer before replying.

363. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It probably doesn’t matter anyway.

364. Take the best of your individual traditions and make them part of your relationship. Forge new traditions together, also.

365. Make an effort to learn about the things that interest your mate. You might be surprised to learn that you dinf them interesting, too.

366. Remember that most of the time comrpomise is more important than agreeing on who is right.

367. Surprise her by singing her favorite love song to her on your wedding anniversary.

368. Surprise him with a romantic and affectionate evening on your wedding anniversary.

369. Think of reasons why you have never felt the same way about anyone else, and share them.

370. Always include a message with any gift you give.

371. If you are going to buy clothing for each other, then make sure it’s the right size.

372. Give her a nickname that makers her feel like a queen.

373. Show off for reach other once in a while.

374. Learn how to say “I love you” in a different language.

375. Carve your initials in a tree.

376. Write your names in cement. Encircle them with a heart.

377. Give him a nickname that makes him feel like a stud.

378. Take lots of pictures of each other, and make a photo history of your relationship.

379. make a time capsule togethjer, and open it on a milestone anniversary.

380. Keep pictures of each other on your nightstand.

381. Have a warm towel ready and waiting when she gets out of the shower.

382. Reach into the shower and scrub his back.

383. Use lotion on your rough spots.

384. Serve breakfast in bed once in a while. Try feeding each other.

385. If you are offered a breath mint, say “thank you” and use it.

386. Surpise each other with sexy underwear.

387. Always notice what she does to her hair.

388. Bring home wine, roses, or champagne for no reason at all.

389. Semd romantic e-mails to each other.

390. Know eac other’s favorite color and favorite foods.

391. Praise him when he loses weight, even if only a couple of pounds.

392. Send a romantic cards ad letters to each other in the mail.

393. If asked, “Do you still love me?” always answer, “More than ever.”

394. Write short but profounf messages for each other and leave them where they are sure to be found.

395. Only take the risks that both of you are comfortable with.

396. If you must change the schedule, tell each other beforehand —-as soon as you reliaze it must be changed.

397.Seize every opprotunity to tell her she is beautiful.

398. Thank each other for the happy memories of things you’ve done together.

399. Remember the birthdays of each of your parents.

400. Always pick up the check when dining out with either set of parents.

       Kinda very long right? But don’t be, there are those times where you wanted to be notice by someone whom you care, at least make an effort to do something.

201-300 Ways to Show what’s in your heart!

Hello guys!!! Another day of enumerating a 100 ways of showing what’s inside your heart to your love ones.

201. Learn how to say, “I can’t wait to get you home” and “You are so hot!” in sign language.

202. Listen to each other. Really listen. Listen some more.

203. Share all the secrets you can without hurting each other.

204. If either of you is uncomfortable with the plan, change it immediately.

205. Be each other’s sounding board even if you have heard it before.

206. Go to an amusement park and ride the Ferris wheel —kiss when you reach the top.

207. Try to win a prize for her at the fair. Spend whatever it takes.

208. Be ach other’s biggest fan—and loudest cheerleader.

209. Have a beer with him at the ball park. Stand and holler whenever he does.

210. Attend each other’s high school and college reunions.

211. Give each other lucky charms

212. Never suggest a boob job or that she needs to diet.

213. Never have a crush on a celebrity. Atleast don’t confess to it.

214. Don’t ever say or do anything that will cause someone else to think you are available.

215. When you have important decisions to make, ask each other for advice.

216. Never remind him of ho fit and slender he once was.

217. Confide in each other —first and often.

218. Never use offensive words or gestures—or ones that provoke fear.

219. Don’t ask for details of any previous relationship.

220. Always act toward each other in ways that you will never regret later.

221. Don’t ever make the same mistake twice. Learn from your mistake.

222. Become skilled in fine arts of overlooking and overcoming.

223. Go out of your way to start a conversation on something that is important to her.

224. Share your deepest personal and religious beliefs with each other.

225. Pray together when times are tough.

226. Show genuine concern about the things that keep him awake at night.

227. Attend worship services together and become involved in the congregation’s activities as much as you can.

228. Attend your house of worship together and be willing to talk together about your faith.

229. When you watch the sunset together, be sure to say “Thank you for spending this day with me.” Once it disappears.

230. When you watch the sunrise together remember to say “I’m so glad I have another day  with you” the moment it appears.

231. Always look into each other’s eyes when you are talking.

232. Take care of the routine maintenance of her car, and keep her gas tank full.

233. When you find that you are about to eat or use the last something, offer to share it. Better yet, give it to your mate.

234. Make sure that when you shower or bather, you don’t use up all the hot water.

235. make sure that his best shirts are always clean. Check his ties for stains.

236. Clean the tub after you finish your bath. Don’t leave such things for her.

237. Arrange for a lawn service to give him a well-deserved break one weekend.

238. They’re your friends, not hers. Don’t expect her to take care of them for you.

239. When you r mate says, “We need to talk,” understand that means right now, not later.

240. Don’t play one-upmanship with your mate. No one ever wins.

241. If you know it is irritating, stop doing it.

242. They’re your friends, not his. Don’t expect him to drop everything just because they came over.

243 Never say, “You’ve changed,” unless both of you would agree that its for the better.

244. When you can see that help is needed, get in there and help before you are asked to do so.

245. Celebrate with each other in times of joy.

246. If you can help each other’s dreams come true, do it.

247. Support each other’s effort at personal growth.

248. Encourage each other’s individuality.

249. Do not compete with the children for each other’s time—but make time for everybody in the family.

250. Alternate holidays between your families. Do it without complaint.

251. Invite both of your families to join together in celebrating special events in your lives.

252. Participate in each other’s family traditions as if they have been your own for generations. It will enrich your life.

253. Be enthusiastic about getting to know each other’s families.

254. If each of you has children from a previous marriage, treat all of them equally in your estate planning.

255. If your family includes a child that isn’t yours, love him or her as if they were.

256. Treat each other like you would want someone to treat your son or daughter.

257. Go to any length to make each other laugh.

258. Play to have fun, not to win. Play often.

259. Love is a team sport, not a competition. You don’t have to win to have a good time.

260. when you’re together, try to find something humorous in every situation.

261. Be her gentleman. Go outside for the paper. Tale out the dog. Take out the Trash. Unload the dishwasher.

262. When you’re watching TV on the couch together, be the one who refreshes the beverages.

263. Change your routine once in a while to add a little spcie to your relationship.

264. Be his siren, rub his shoulders. Let your hair down. Wear the perfume he bought for you. Sleep naked.

265. Say “Thank you for loving me” often.

266. End every telephone conversation with “I love you”.

267. There will always be more work to do. Take time to relax together.

268. Be generous-with your time, your attention, your money. And your love.

269. Stand or walk between her and traffic,

270. Say “Thanks, honey” or wink at him when he holds the door for you.

271. Give her heart shaped candy on the anniversary of your first date.

272. Be willing to stop anything that you are doing to make time for a little romance.

273. Every ten years or so, invite your family and closest friends to a party in which you renew your vows.

274. Wait on each other hand and foot on your anniversary.

275. Always follow your heart, not your friends’ recommendation.

276. Call each other’s parents on special occasions.

277. On the anniversary of your first date, give him that same lingering good-night kiss he still remembers.

278. Answer unambiguously f someone asks if you are in a relationship.

279. After saying “yes”, pull out your wallet and show off your pictures.

280. Affirm each other’s strength, and never exploit the weaknesses.

281. Never lead in a direction where the other doesn’t want to go.

282. Never tell a lie in order to get out of an embarrassing situation.

283. If the two of you run into one of her old boyfriends, be a gentleman.

284. Never put yourself in a situation that will tempt you to lie if you get caught,

285. When you make a promise, keep it. A good relationship requires keeping you promises.

286. If the two of you run into one of his old girlfriends, forget about her as soon as possible.

287. Be sure t share the power and control in your relationship.

288. Allow each other to be an expert in something.

289. If she forgot her gloves or jacket, giver her yours.

290. If she forgot her sunglasses, give her yours.

291. If she forgot her pajamas, hide yours.

292. If he forgot his toothbrush, give him yours.

293. If he forgot his razor, give him yours.

294. If he brought his pajamas, hide them.

295. Let your touch be gentle, never demanding or rough.

296. Never ever tell anyone each other’s secrets.

297. Talk in detail about what it is that keeps you in love.

298. Talk freely about the fun and good times you have shared.

299. The next time you go out to eat together, secretly check into a hotel first and surprise him with the key at the end of the meal.

300 When you are traveling and you call home, say “I wish I were there with you.”

Hope every one guys had a great time today?! After reading this, don’t hesitate to apply it in your relationship! Try it and it might work. ^_~

 

 

 

101-200 Hundreds of ways to show what’s in your heart!

This is a continuation from what I have started since yesterday. So, ready yourself and get yourself another 101-200 ways on how to show whats in your heart with the person you care about!

101. be willing to go where the other wants to go, even if it’s not your preference.

102. Encourage her to spend as much time with her friends as you do with yours.

103. Never complain about each other to your parents.

104. Even though you are a guest, pitch in and help your in-laws with whatever needs doing.

105. Find out what each of you admires about your parents, and strive for that in your own relationship.

106. Allow him the harmless horseplay he enjoys with the guys.

107. Be cordial to the people in each other’s life, and treat them as if they are important to you, too.

108. Never complain about visiting each other’s parents or other family members.

109. Always agree ahead of time how long a visit will last.

110. Reassure each other whenever one of you needs it, no matter how often.

111. Make the focus of your relationship each other’s heart, not your bodies.

112. Try to be the first to say “I love you” in any situation where it is appropriate.

113. Send each other flowers at the office. Don’t send the same flowers every time.

114. Be sure to include a romantic message with every gift. Don’t use the same message every time.

115. Wait on each other hand and foot on your birthdays.

116. Plan ahead and celebrate birthdays in grand fashion.

117. Be considerate, even if you don’t understand why she is upset.

118. Never point a finger in anger.

119. Remember that it is important to taljk through your difference. Don’t “just drop it”. It will fester.

120. Be patient, even if you asked him not to be late.

121. Forgive and forget every offense, without exception. The more difficult it is to forgive, the more important it is to do so.

122. Become adept at forgetting. Harboring resentments will erode the best in each of you.

123. Give each other the passwords to your email.

124. Never open each other’s mail.

125. Shop together for furniture and the artwork you use in decorating your home.

126. For a change, go shopping together and each of you pick out something for the other.

127. Believe it —he is trying to get to everything on your list. Thank him when you get to mark one off.

128. Look for the things you can agree upon and focus on them.

129. Fulfill all you responsibilities to each other willingly. Don’t be afraid to go the second mile.

130. Don’t complain if there is a third or fourth mile.

131. Believe it— she does more for you than you will ever realize. Thank her as often as you can.

132. Treat each other so well that you confidence in each other never wavers.

133. It is important to trust each other, and even more important to be trustworthy. So be so.

134. When one of you says, “No”, respect it.

135. Set out with no destination in mind. Enjoy the process of getting somewhere together.

136. Nog each other about staying healthy.

137. Never let your life get so busy that you don’t have time for each other.

138. Be each other’s best friend.

139. Tell each other stories abut the funny things that happened when you were children.

140. Be sure to reciprocate every gesture of patience, affection, kindness, assistance, and unselfishness.

141. Be uninhibited in showing affection—not obnoxious, just enthusiastic.

142. Just for fun, carry her across the threshold occasionally.

143. Remember, everybody enjoys having their back scratched. Well, almost everybody.

144. The same goes for foot massages.

145. Just for fun, wear nothing but his bathrobe now and then.

146. Enjoy bug mugs of hot cocoa with marshmallows together on the first day of winter.

147. Stay in good physical shape for each other.

148. Encourage each other in everything you do.

149.If you don’t want to know the answer, don’t ask the question.

150. Work hard to break your bad habits, and don’t go back to them.

151. Always accept help when it is offered.

152. never demand an apology. Wait for it to arrive in its own time.

153. Keep a jar for loose change. When it is full, cash it in together and use the money to buy something totally frivolous.

154. Put some creativity and effort into the gifts you select. Never give her a gift certificate.

155. Always personalize the cards you give to each other.

156. Surprise each other with hugs and kisses when they are least expected.

157. Give him the gift he wants, not the one you think he needs.

158. Buy a gift bag, fill with sixty Hershey’s Kisses, and give it with a note that says, “For every minute of the hour I think of you.”

159. Wake each other with gentle hugs and kisses. Keep breath mints on your nightstand for just this occasion.

160. Make a wish for each other at every full moon.

161. Cook a meal together, and eat it by candle light, listening top the soundtrack of romantic movie.

162. Take nps together on rainy afternoons. And sunny ones, too. And when it snows. And…

163. Try new adventures together at least once a month, and save mementoes of the occasion.

164. Take pictures of every special occasion you share. Look at them together later.

165. Keep a relationship journal and read to each other often from it.

166. Display photographs of the two of you doing fun things together.

167. Be patient when you think you know what needs to be done but he hasn’t figure it out yet.

168. Respect each other’s everyday responsibilities demanding constant attention is selfish.

169. Emphasize the positive in your relationship—don’t focus on the negative.

170. Be sure to remind each other how blessed you are to have one another.

171. Overlook the mess she made if she was only trying to help you in the first place.

172. Expect that there will be bad times. Prepare for them by creating so many good times that the bad ones are easily outnumbered.

173. If you get a nice bonus, don’t hide it. It belongs to both of you.

174. Spend any leftover money on each other, not yourself. Be generous, not selfish.

175. Let her put her feet in your lap; kiss her toes when she does.

176. Let her wear your shirts, and don’t complain if she wants to keep one for herself.

177. Smile whenever you catch each other’s eye, regardless of where you are.

178. The next time there is a warm summer rain, go outside and show dance in it.

179. Shave his neck for him; use warm water and a sharp razor.

180. Sneak a kiss in public once in a while, when it is least expected. Be discrete.

181. Share a warm bubble bath after a hard day. Wash each other’s back.

182. Linger in admiration of each other’s best attribute.

183. Be sure to keep a photograph of each other in your purse or wallet.

184. Send each other goofy cards for no particular reason.

185. When you’re going out to celebrate a special occasion, let the maitre d’ know about it before you arrive.

186. Watch a Sleepless in Seattle together.

187. If you must comment on Meg Ryan, let it be only about her acting.

188. Never quiz each other about anything that may have been said while sleeping.

189. Avoid asking him, “Why don’t you say things like that?” after Tom Hank’s most romantic lines.

190. Throw away the glamour shots of old girlfriends or boyfriends.

191. Should you one day have children together, devote yourself to them above everything else.

192. Always make lots of time available to your children, and help each other take care of them.

193. Agree upon how to raise the children. Do not criticize each other’s actions in front of them.

194. If each of you has children from a previous marriage, help each other to become the best step parent possible.

195. Make the bed while she is in the bathroom.

196. Talk about a special moment you both have experienced that you wished would never end. Make it happen again.

197. Plan to have at least one “date” every week, and do some of the things you did when  you were courting.

198. Lead him to a candlelit bathroom and a hot bath.

199. Celebrate the anniversary of your first date by doing it all over again.

200. Chase each other around the house once in a while. Get caught.

Reading each statement from this list were somehow giving me a wishful thinking of how I wish there could be a possible thing in one of this list to happen between me and my spouse. But I think this is just a wishful thinking and I know it won’t be in reality. So, sad but it’s the reality. Hopefully someone could use this…^_^

 

I am hopelessly romantic. Completely in despair right now!…..

The other 201-300 would be too follow. So , enjoy the day!