How are you guyz? Hope everyone is doing well. I am going to share with you guys some of the Principle of Henry A . Penix in his book “Accelerate your Destiny“. I did make a slideshow and created it a video, hope it will help you guys. If you want to have a further about this thing you can access or search more about the said book.
Even A hundred folds of grief is divisible by love. A statement that I did really like from reading Chicken Soup for the Soul: From Lemonade to Lemon. I am not the only one who suffered from this disease known LOVE by human for how many millennial. There are so many reasons for a couple to separate ways. Girlfriend-Boyfriend relationship could end up for so many reasons. How much more for a couple, whose been married for how many years. When does a relationship ends? When both were already through from each other? When sparks already worn out? Or did each of the individual find another love to spend their time with and find if it’s worth staying? For those who suffered and reading this, how did you heal your broken heart?
The traces are still there. Forgiveness is not yet given, and I don’t know when will be that day. Some people said, the sign of moving on is when you forgive the one who did the hurtful things to you. Is this true? But then again, I couldn’t totally answer that.
So below this are things I did just to pull myself up.
1. Write your thoughts out!
From my previews post, I did write an articles. For I couldn’t keep my emotion as much as I can. When we were in that situation, thoughts suddenly overflowing. All the queries. All the doubts that cannot be answered suddenly takes a toll on me. I am an introvert person. I just can’t tell you what my thoughts out loud, unlike extrovert people. I keep them, but in some way or another, there is always a so called limits to everything. I recently realized that during those days. The limits of comprising everything inside. So I thought I need an outlet. Something that could minimize the bearing, keep myself in total check, and blocking my mind off from thinking. I did the writings, posted some of them to this page. Most of my write ups was posted in a certain website that stopped working years ago. Ended up deleting every post I had back then, but that’s okay now, it’s all in the past. Aside from posting them from websites, I am also writing them up in a journal.
It feels good when you write them up. Looking from them years after, you will surely tell yourself, “How stupid I was back then!” and you will feel like it was the most embarrassing and funniest moment ever happen to your life.
2. Go out and do some Aerobics!
The music was loud, my co-aerobics ladies was busy dancing, and I was like doing the moves but I had a teary eyes. I held back, controlled it, and do the moves. I did go through readings from websites, magazines and other reading materials just to get rid the thoughts of our relationship from my mind and one of their advice was do the moves. By doing an exercise that releases an endorphin (or the happy hormones) from your body will increase and help you to get on the positive track. It is indeed effective.
My goal back then was not to get my body fats out from my system, but to get my mind off the track from thinking of him.
3. Find a Trustworthy person who experience the same situation.
There were those moments when writing isn’t enough. You want an advice from someone who can understand your distress, and know how to deal on some of your deep worries. I am thankful to my friend, who was there when I needed an advice. Someone I can go to when everything seems so unclear. Thanks to her, I conquered that feeling.
4. Look for something that will get yourself busy.
Working on something that will let your thoughts drift off from the burdened you carry within yourself is a must. You can gear yourself to do something that might interest you. Don’t let yourself do nothing, and think everything all over and over again in your home at your own emotional expense. Go out! You can do a cooking class, stitch a little bit, go for a seminar, training, or do anything that will make you happy. Taking one step at a time is worth a try than moping around. Aerobics isn’t enough for me back then, I invest my earnings in learning new things. I enrolled in Education at St. Michael for 1 year class with 24 units subject at hand. I missed going to school. Doing this, really gave me plenty of things to worry that will keep my mind off of him. I got lot of home works, papers to be finished, reports to do and immersion to go to. It was then a busy year. I was working Weekdays, going to school during Weekends, a daily dose of 1 hour aerobics and doing all my papers during night time. Speaking of this, I kind of missed doing it.
5. Don’t let yourself play slow songs or something romantic.
As much as I can, I don’t like listening to mellow music. I need something pop, rock or something that I can apply my aerobic thing. For listening mellow music will get me to square one, and it can took a little bit of time to pull myself again. So don’t let yourself do this, unless you’ve moved on.
After I gave my ultimate decision to my father about us, I decided to go somewhere to heal my undeniable broken heart. I went to the place where I really love, Japan. I did do a little bit of savings for almost a months. As far as my budget can stretch, I did try not to spend too much. Trying to stop myself from the whim of my own wants, and thankfully, it was a success. I got my dream. I went there and it was the most happiest thing ever that did happen to my existence here on earth. It means a lot to me.
Each and every one of us has different coping up mechanism. It so happen that, what is written here is something I did try to pull myself from this distress. You can try anything that is appropriate to you, no one needs to control you for what you want.
For those viewers whose reading this and has a same situation, you know that you are not alone. If you want to cry, cry like a river, but don’t make it forever. The last thing that I did learn from all of this is that; No one can save you at the end of day, but you, yourself alone. Live fully, and live well.
As per experience, applying for japan visa needs an effort for a tourist. You can’t just go to the embassy and apply for it personally. You need to go through to accredited travel agencies that allowed by the Japanese Embassy to transact with them. You need to choose, and better to canvass on how much processing fee they need for you to pay. Last 2015, we let Pan Pacific do our transaction with processing fee worth 2,000. It’s quite a lot, however our determination didn’t stop from wanting to go to Japan.
The next time around, year 2017, we did canvas for other agencies who can possibly accommodate us with a lower processing fee. Pan pacific was still at 2,000, others were 1,200 and luckily, we did find Discovery Tour with 800 php as processing fee. Without any further ado, most of us decided to choose this agency.
To help those who are planning to go to the Land of the rising sun. Below are the list of documents needed by the agency.
- OLD and New Passport
2. VISA APPLICATION FORM japan visa application form
3. TWO COPIES OF PHOTO
4. NSO BIRTH CERTIFICATE
5. CERTIFICATE OF EMPLOYMENT
6. ORIGINAL BANK CERTIFICATION
7. INCOME TAX RETURN (FORM 2315)
8. EMPLOYER IDENTIFICATION CARD
9. DAILY TRAVEL ITINERARY FOR JAPAN
10. CEBU PACIFIC RECEIPT
11. AIRBNB/AGODA RESERVATION
- KINZA NAKAMEGURO
Address: 2-16-14 Kamimeguro Meguro-ku, Tokyo 153-0051
Tel: 03-5773-6166 Fax No.: 03-5773-6099
- ★New open Tatami room★
Address: 〒125-0052 3Chome-28-25 Shibamata Katsushika-ku, Tōkyō-to
12. For those married, they are requirement NSO/PSA Marriage Contract.
The first thing that comes out in our mind when we think about travelling is how much will it cost us? How much do we need to save for the trip that we dreamt of? Do I have enough cash for this travel? Travelling should not be an encumbrance, but a commitment to yourself to take a break and have fun once in a while. This will take more patients when it comes to preparation.
From my 2015 Japan Travel, I didn’t got too much of a problem since I already have a fund to use. At first, I questioned if this will be in acted. I do believe in the words “expect the unexpected”, until my co-officemate booked a ticket 45 days before our trip. When she did that, I said to myself “This is it.” For this time around, 2017 Japan Travel, I really need to break a leg to save up. The remaining deposit on my bank account was at its lowest, and need to start from a scratch. Nevertheless, our willingness to take this trip with my college friends was then stronger and finally set our mind to do it. We made a planning then booked a promo flight from Cebu Pacific 7 months before its departure. We then waited for another local promo air fare and we just did.
In order to give you a further insight about my expenses, you can base from the information below.
INTERNATIONAL FLIGHT (VICE VERSA). 7,350
LOCAL AIR FARE (VICE VERSA) 1,500
LOCAL TERMINAL FEE (LAGUINDINGAN AIRPORT) 200
INTERNATIONAL FEE (MACTAN AIRPORT) 750
TRAVEL TAX INTERNATIONAL FEE 1,620
HOTEL NAKA-MEGURO 2,500
SHIBAMATA HOTEL. 1,658
CEBU HOTEL FOR 1 NIGHT 700
TRANSPORTATION FARE FROM NARITA TO NAKAMEGURO 1,200 KESEI SKY LINER (SHIBAMATA TO NARITA) 926.50
VISA PROCESSING THROUGH DISCOVERY TOUR 800
Based from the above computation, it did cost me 19,204.50. In addition to this, I did bring 30,000 with me for my expenses for food, transportation and other unexpected expenses. However, I didn’t used all those amount, and bring some of it when I came back from Japan.
How much you’re going to spend depends on the person who is travelling. When you plan, be sure to consider all the expenses needed, and the places.
Day 4: Tokyo Disney Land
Surely days fly so fast and its already at our 4th day. We were planning to be entertained at the said amusement park, and see how majestically it was. I am not an amusement type of a person, but as to fun related aspect, I am really into it. I like going on a fast ride like roller coaster, bump car, and whatever that takes my adrenaline keep on moving fast.
Then before going there, we did woke up at around 8 am. We got tired last night transferring our luggage from one train to another. We did got lost, and realize that Shibamata was too far from the city centre of Tokyo. Upon arriving there, we mistakenly pin point someone else’s home. This freaked us out and called for some help from the citizen, and called a police. The ending was that the house that should accommodate us that night was just the adjacent house we wrongly thought it was. We were very sorry for the trouble we did cause that day. Nevertheless, this kind of situation is indeed part of the journey.
In the next morning,
It was a long way route going from Shibamata to Tokyo Disney Land. We almost spend our time like three hours. We even got the wrong ride. To tell you the truth, the amazing train ride was like a maze to us. Those who are interested in making a trip to this wonderful country, you need to take heed all the advices by the people who already have been there. One thing I could contribute is for you to do an extensive RESEARCH! If you won’t do so, your time staying there will be consumed in finding your next destination, and do a little bit of sight-seeing later. Nonetheless, this isn’t should be the pattern. It should BE less travel, more sightseeing.
We did arrived at Tokyo Disney Land at around 1:00 pm. To give you a glimpse, here are some photos we did captured.
Being with your friends on travel and experiencing such as shown in the picture is really overwhelming. You know what I mean on this part. That feeling of being you, and showing the fondness that is part of you without even caring about what other people says. As long as your with them, and sharing this moment is all that matter.
Yet, there is really a disadvantage in waking up late. (v.v) We didn’t got the chance to ride most all the amenities inside Tokyo Disney Land. We only did experience two out of many. We did noticed about a fast pass. This fast pass is an opportunity given to any Tokyo Disney Land visitors to schedule their time, and be prioritized when your schedule is up without queuing in a lengthy and time consuming line. At first I indeed noticed this from a blog, but didn’t give too much attention due to excitement. It was a regret, in fact if only I did took an importance to that blog we would be riding more rides, and make more memories out of our trip there. Nevertheless, we did made a good lasting memory that day.
Did I mentioned earlier about an “extensive research”? Be reminded even though your with your friends, relatives, co-office mates, etc during your trip; don’t give too much confident to relay on them! I don’t mean this on a negative aspect, but on the lighter side. You still needed to do the researching part. Why? Experience is really the best mentor. It happened to me. I got separated from my friends. While we were searching for our next ride, it was coincidentally that it was also a pick hour. Every worker were leaving from their offices at that time of the day. We were then also busy looking at our cell phones for a route. However, I was then not minding too much about it, and just do the observing thing. My friend mentioned about going to Higashi-Matsudo twice as our next stop, and I did took that in mind. A minute later, the train arrived and everyone was in waiting line for the door to open. Second later, everyone is going inside. I was confident that my friends was also taking their steps toward the train door. I felt that the train was starting to move. I did look at my right side if my friends where there, but they were not. My mind got rattled at that moment seeing them outside the window of the train. The feeling was like a slow motion scene in a movie upon seeing them. They were saying something, giving me signal that I couldn’t understand. My mind suddenly blank out at that instant, and the only thing that came out from my lips was the word “Higashi-Matsudo”. My mind was confused, distressed, feels like I wanted to cry however I need to shake things off, and decide! I took the courage to ask the people around, luckily, the guy in front of me told me that the train I was riding was a wrong train going to Higashi Matsudo. Like OMG! What do I do! What do I do! These words keeps on popping inside my mind. The guy instructed me to wait for a train on our next stop for Higashi-Matsudo. I was like a lone wolf separated from the pack at that moment. I was then waiting to the said place, but after 30 minutes of waiting, I didn’t see them. So I had to decide to go to the next station at Takasago Station. I thought at that moment, if there was a place where we could highly meet up, it will be at that station. There were no other stations beside that station where we could ride a train going to Shibamata station. Thankfully, 15 minutes after I arrived, I saw them and feel relaxed. I was thankful to Japanese citizen, who helped me to find my way back to Takasago Station. Arigato Gozaimasu!
Source: MAMIS NO BOUKEN: ON JAPAN DAY 3
Ok guys! Let’s continue what we have just started. After going through with our enjoyable first day and second day, let’s move to the next day for a far more exciting moments.
Day 3. The Imperial Palace and Imperial East Garden Tour plus Asakusa Shrine
We did fail in going inside the Imperial Palace on my first visit, and only came to Imperial East Garden. This time, together with my friends, we did see and be with other tourist inside the palace.
You need to get your visit be scheduled before going to the palace. Thanks to a certain blog, we got this idea beforehand. Through visiting the website of the imperial household agency almost all dates were full, lucky for us, the date the we planned to visit the said place has more slot for the 5 of us. Below is the print out that was send by the agency to be presented in front of Kikyo-mon Gate:
NOTICE OF PERMIT FOR VISIT TO THE IMPERIAL PALACE IN TOKYO
Date of Application/2017-02-04
DATE/TIME 2017-02-16 10:00
PARTY NAME Mamis
NUMBER OF VISITORS Total 5
NAME OF REPRESENTATIVE: Jomairah Mulay AGE 29 GENDER Female
- Please be at the ” Kikyo-mon Gate” entrance 10 minutes before your tour start time.
- Please bring a printed copy of this Notice of Permit on the tour day.If you can not print the permit number, please let the receptionist know your permit number.
- Please follow the instructions of the staff.
- The tour is approximately 75 minutes long, covering a distance of 2.2 kilometers (approx. 1.3 miles), and covers a limited portion of the Palace Grounds.
- The interior of the Palace is not included in the tour. An English audio guide is available at the Visitor’s House, Please ask the staff for further details.
- This permit is valid only for the members listed on the application form. All group members should bring a passport or other legal identification. If a member is unable to attend, please inform the staff when you arrive.
- Photography is allowed, but large group portraits are not permitted.
- Large bags, such as luggage, are not permitted on the tour.
- Visitors are requested to refrain from smoking while in the Palace Ground.
- Tour is subject to cancellation without notice due to unforeseen circumstances and Palace obligations.
- If you want to cancell your tour, please contact the Imperial Household Agency.
- You are permitted to visit the East Gardens of the Imperial Palace while it is open.
JR ; 15minutes’ walk from Tokyo Station(Marunouchi Central Exit)
Subway; 10minutes’ walk from Nijubashi-mae Station(Chiyoda Line Exit 6)
10minutes’ walk from Otemachi Station(Mita Line Exit D2)
*Cars and bicycles are not allowed to park.
* Please let us know your opinions and comments.
Upon arriving at Kikyo-mon gate, you will be instructed to wait. After a while at exactly 10:00 AM we are now permitted to go inside and they let us gather to certain room.
They then gave us hand outs, audio, and did informed us to go to the comfort room since the tour will take an hour and a half. Some of the visitors did do so, and that also goes for us. After a while they instructed us to line up as to start the tour guide. So here’s some sneak peek.
They didn’t let us go inside the buildings that were seen here. However, the scene was really great. The only thing it concerns me about this tour guide is that the personnel who handle this and speaks about the palace speaks Niponggo. Most of us tourist couldn’t understand it, except those tourist handed with an audio and the Japanese people. How nice will it be if they would hire someone to speak English for us tourist to get even more understanding about the place.
Our next stop was the Imperial East Garden which is just near the palace. We did visit this place hoping for a cherry blossom, and when we came there it’s still a plum. Though it’s not yet the full bloom cherry blossom, my friends did loved it and I was astonished again for the second time around.
The next stop was the Asakusa Shrine. We didn’t get the opportunity to do a souvenir shopping for our friends and family from earlier trip. To our surprise, in this area there were so many store that sells different stuffs. Even hello kitty was there, which my friend keeps on talking about, wanted to buy for her co-officemates for a souvenir. From all those products, it’s hard to pick which one to buy. And the most surprising thing is that, I did get to experience eating a Fish Bread!
I couldn’t believe it but I just did. I’ve been looking for this from my first trip, and even when I was then at Osaka and Kyoto, I didn’t get the chance to find one. It did took me to go to Tokyo for the second time around to eat this kind of bread. I just love the one with chocolate, and cheese flavour. It’s Oishi! Red Bean is something didn’t pass to my taste buds. Sorry.
So going back, another store that we were curious about is the Halal Restaurant called, Naritaya Halal.
It cost us an hour to find this place. And it’s a popular resto for the Muslim tourist which cause us to wait up in line to be entertained. After waiting for a half a hour, I ordered a Ramen worth 1,200 yen.
In fairness, my tummy is really satisfied and full after eating this ramyunJ I would recommend for those Muslim people who would love to eat some ramen. And just to let you know guyz, according to a Japan citizen, Asakusa is an area where most of the restaurant are halal. You need to grab a copy of a brochure at a guided tourist office to see it, and choose.
After experiencing ramen, we did planned to find a for rent Kimono. But due to some unpredicted event, we did delayed this plan for about an hour. At around 5:15 pm, we hurried it up to find one, but most of the for rent Kimono House closed at 6:00 pm and didn’t cater us. Fortunately, one of the store recommend us to this certain shop, who provides a for rent Kimono until 7:00 PM. Without any further ado, we started to look for that store and ask some nearby citizen to help us out how to get there. It take us a minutes since what we’re looking for were just nearby and we didn’t notice it ahead. We directly went to the second floor of the building were ONE is located. As the elevator open its door, it took us by surprise by all the KIMONOS on standby waiting to be rented out. The female care taker told us, that it will take them 45 minutes to get us dressed, and cleared to us that it will be less hour to use the kimonos. After explaining those, we did told them that even for a less hour, we wanted to experience wearing the outfit. Instead of doing it for 45 minutes, they did it less than that. As per observation, dressing a Kimono really take things complicated since it takes you to be dressed up layer by layer. This how it goes for us.
Thanks for the ONE SHOP for letting us wear this beautiful Kimono even just for an hour. Dreams do come true.