Deviance Behavior: On being a Gay

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This guy in the picture is not my cousin, that’s for sure. It is just an image representing this article:)

Homosexuality has been well-thought-out as deviant behavior throughout human history. People cannot remove this kind of behavior towards one person who is involved into this kind of act. Christian, Muslim and other religion condemn this homosexuality, but then again we cannot judge one person just for having this kind of behavior.

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I did interviewed a close relative of being a gay and he told me everything I want to know. First of all, his alias name is “Gorgeous” (won’t like to state his name for privacy purposes) a first cousin of mine. I asked him if this deviancy was innate, and he told me that, it’s true. When he a was a child, most of his companions were all girls. In his growing up years he looks up to them. He observed the entire action the way girls do at a tender age, and later on he was influenced. During those time, he assumed that being with them, and acting like them is a norm. He ended up  desiring to be like them.

Secondly, I asked him if ever he run into a problem of being a gay. He answered, “ My parents doesn’t want me to be like this, but what can I do? This is me. Hence, I feel that my kinsfolks hated me since I am a gay. Someday I’ll be someone that they’re going to be proud of and prove them that I am capable of doing things.” In Muslim communities, homosexuality is not accepted for they see this act as an immoral. Nevertheless, for the people who are engaged to this kind of doing  feels that they are just being real to themselves.

 Thirdly, I asked him if being a gay has given him anything or any benefits. He then replied, “It gives me the chance to be known in campus. I gained a lot of friends and made many memories to keep. Self-confidence is the key factor from all of this. I gained this for being myself, causing everything to fall to its rightful place.” I envy my cousin on this part. He has this guts and attitude that lures people toward his unique characteristic.

The Interviewer and the interviewee, which is me, is related by blood. Him, being a gay, as I see it doesn’t cause any problem. If he wants to be a gay then that’s his choice. We cannot force something to a person, he/she doesn’t want to. The only thing I can possibly do for him is to support and understand every endeavor his trying to accomplish.

This article was created a years ago. Gorgeous is not your typically gay who will wear a lot of makeup, have a thick red lips, and act excessively. Yet, he does wear in a very fashionable manner. Comparing from then to now, Gorgeous change 180 degrees. What do I mean? He ended up choosing being a man. He does once told us that “Let me do things, as what I am doing now. Time will come I’ll get bored acting this way” and he did. Though he did changed, yet his gesture still exist, act softly or” mahinhin” in tagalog.

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Teaching-Learning Process 2

This post is based on my field study that I did conduct last three months for the year 20144. You may seem not to approve some of this idea, but please correct me if I am wrong. Most of the things contain here were based on my own opinion. I am very welcome to some ideas that you may share on this subject matter. Thank you and hope it will be a help for those people in search for the same studies.

An Interview from a Teachers’ View

I-    Describe the characteristics of teacher as a person!

  • Teachers are the role model of the children. They are the hope of these young minds in their everyday life at school and the holder of their future. This is the reason why teacher should adopt a certain philosophy, value and a good moral act. She/he is the example of every child in every section that s/he handles.  Being a teacher is not an easy profession, because you must possess that kind of thing were you need to master and know things for your children. According to other people, teachers are the jack of all trade but master of nothing. They indeed play the entire role in class like being a teacher, mother, father, counselor, friend, family and a lot of stuff. They were being look up to by them. In his/her shoulder rest the quality of what her/his students will become in the future. For this reason as person, all teachers need to adopt a certain value that they could apply. They can do this through exercising of learning so many things and explore experiences. Seeing and feeling things in every different perspective are where you can find and acquired the ideal value that you wanted. Locking up yourself within the four wall of your room will never lead you to somewhere more fruitful because teaching is a lifelong learning process. The teacher must have a goal. One goal that they could possibly adopt is to commit oneself with excellence and not just doing the “pwede na” mentality

II-    Result of Interview

  • As a student of Educ 21s, the following interviewees were teachers of AKIC-SLS where we conduct our field studies. Two of these teachers that I will be mentioning are already finished their master and one is still on progress. The following are the names, who gave their spare time to answer the questions that I did prepared;

I am very sorry for not posting the names of my interviewee due to private issue.

      Teacher I

      Teacher II

      Teacher III

I did enumerate all the answers of these teachers accordingly in one number. As you observed in the labeled above, where somehow will help you to determine who answered that specific question.

  1. 1.       Why did you choose teaching as your profession out of million professions available? What interest you about this job

      Teacher I- I did not choose to become a teacher. The teaching profession chose me. Only in the recent years that I realized that “I trod the righteous path”. We are the “faceless” and “unsung” (unknown) builders of the future. If farmers ‘grow trees’, we teachers ‘raise people!

      Teacher II – It’s my dream to be a teacher. It started when my adviser in grade II asked me to help my classmates read our lecture that was written on the board. When I see the smiles of my classmates. I told to myself that they can read because of me. Then I, start dreaming to be a teacher.

      Teacher III – I wanted to try out d noblest profession as they said.

  1. 2.       What was the most satisfying moment throughout your student teaching?

      Teacher I – I have had students in High Scholl before who are now professionals. Last October, the new accountant of AKIC was introduced to me. He was very thankful for all that he had learned from me. He proudly said that part of his success for passing the licensure is me. Wow, what could be more gratifying?

      Teacher II- When my students understand my discussion. If I give a quiz and almost all the students answered correctly. Also, when the struggler students understand my lesson and got a passing grade at the end of the quarter, it is really satisfying in my part.

      Teacher III- Most satisfying moment was upon managing my time as a student and at d same time as a teacher.

  1. 3.       How do you handle stress and pressure in your profession?

      Teacher I- Being a principal entails loads of responsibilities and tremendous pressure and stress. Under these circumstances, I HEAT up. I double my effort to meet the challenge. I do not want to stair my immaculate service record because your honor and your good reputation is why people hire you.

      Teacher II- I make sure to be always calm in everything. If I’m too stressing  at the end of the day, I’ll go somewhere else where I can eat. If my work pressured me, I usually set my mind to just chill and do things slowly but surely.

      Teacher III- By asking Allah’s grace and guidance of course…work with pleasure and positivity.

  1. 4.       In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges that teachers face today?

      Teacher I – The biggest challenges that teachers face today is HOW TO COMPETE WITH SCIENCE AND TECHNOLOGY in terms of retaining the INTEREST of students in their lesson. We teachers have to compete with and sometime jealous of “DOTA”, video games, all phones, ipads, etc. Students as we all know are TECHIE, aren’t they?

      Teacher II – In my case, I’ll consider the following: 1.) Students’ behavior in the present generation, 2.) Being a global teacher to cope up with the rapid changes in our education system.

      Teacher III – Biggest challenges! The changing grading system every now and then, from RBEC to K-12 curriculum. Lack of trainings and facilities.

  1. 5.       What is your definition of a life-long learner? How can you promote life-long learning in your classroom?

      Teacher I – Lifelong learning is sustainable learning. It is learning that will last for a lifetime. This can be done by experiential approach or learning by doing. If a student participate gets involved in an activity then it will take a long time to forget.

      Teacher II – Lifelong learner. It is when the students can transfer his/her learning in the classroom outside or in his/her daily activities. If the students understand the importance of the lesson in the real-life and he/she can perform it, that’s already a life-long learning. In my classroom, I actually give examples where the students will be the one to explain it. In that way, the student is already practicing or processing in her mind the importance of that topic through the given examples. If you observed, I do not do much of the talking/discussion, my students does.

      Teacher III- To promote lifelong learning is to facilitate the class with the 21st century skills

An Interview with Myself

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•Who has been the most important person in your life? Can you tell me about him or her?

        Many of the people around the globe would tell that the most important person in their life is no other than the one who gave birth to them, and I’m one of them. My mother is the most important person in my life, who always been there for me and worries a lot about me. I guess if the world would turn me down for so many reasons, my mother will love me for so many bases as well, and this is what I appreciate to a mother just like my mom. The next important person in my life would be my father. He always punches a joke to make me smile, but to no avail he usually does it in a wrong time. He did give me everything I need and for our family, and what I admire him the most is his perseverance in doing something so earnestly. There was a video that i captured where my father was walking in the rain holding a so much used umbrella which I find it CUTE, and this is it guys:

       The next person would be my brother, who is 10 years younger than me. I know I never been a big sister to him, because I’ve been a spoiled brat. I used to be the only child and this explains why I’ve been unfair to him in some ways. But little does he knows, he is always my brother and what is more unique about him? He is more confident than me. I do care about them, but I just don’t know how to show it to them.

 •What was the happiest moment of your life? The saddest?

       Before sadness engulfs me, every day was the happiest moment in my life. During my childhood, I don’t worry too much about things in life. I’ve been concentrating myself in giving what I can give to those people around me. It might not be in physical form but the kindness that I could possibly give. This type of things is what makes me happier because good karma brings me something good in return, blessings.

•Who has been the biggest influence on your life? What lessons did that person teach you?

The person that brings influence in me; 60% is from myself, 30% is my parents and 20% would be my environment. I am a loner type of a person. I don’t usually talk too much. When I need or accomplish something, I tend to do it by myself, because I learn in life that no one can help me, more than myself.

 •Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

The kindest person in my life would be my mother, of course. A mother’s love is much higher than anyone there in your life. They know your suffering, and they feel when you’re happy. My mother is a quite type of a person, but she did show her love through giving me what I need, and ask me what I want. She is a full time house wife, all the care that needed by a child where already provided by her to us, her children.

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 •What are the most important lessons you’ve learned in life?

“Expect the Unexpected”

        This is the famous quote that everyone knows. As a person, I expect too much in something that I want, but when disappoint prevails me? I usually get hurt too deeply. So now, I am trying not to expect too much on something that is coming. I just let faith flow. If it is a destiny then it will be. However, though I believe in destiny/faith, I also need to work my part as an individual.

 •What is your earliest memory?

        Earliest Memory? Is this about my childhood memory? Let me go down deep in my memory lane, what was I did remember back then…hmmm. Aha! The latest that I remember is during my kindergarten days. The first time I went to school, I never stayed for 30 minutes, right after coming inside the class, due to indifference in my environment. It was so funny because I did remember that I almost cried asking my mom for me to take me home. LOL!

 •What is your favourite memory of me?

        Hmmm…since I am interviewing myself, I would then answer this on my own. My most favourite memory, it was back then during my high school days. Aside from having fun at school together with my friends, I am also having a great life together with so many people around our home. Back then, our home was full of single women. Most of them were my cousins, and aunties. My favourite thing about this part of my life is that we usually do some weird stuff, laughing out over something, and talking much girl stuff. I was then the youngest around the house, so I get all the benefits as young one back then. Now, our home became so boring and I don’t like going home when I feel the presence of emptiness in there.

 •What are the funniest or most embarrassing stories your family tells about you?

        So far they didn’t tell me anything about the most embarrassing one. The only thing was when they let me saw the picture during my months old with a popo on my napkin…LOL!

 •If you could hold on to just one memory from your life forever, what would that be?

“The day when I got married to the man I thought it would be there for a life time. “ I want to freeze that moment; it was March 19, 2011

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 •If this was to be our very last conversation, what words of wisdom would you want to pass on to me?

            Let me change this question, if I want to pass on wisdom to my next generation that would be;

“Always hold on to your religion, seek for him.”

Don’t commit mistake as I do.

 

 •What are you proudest of in your life?

I don’t have it yet, but maybe I’ll be more proud if I will have the chance to have a daughter or a son of my own. That would be greatest thing for me.

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 •When in life have you felt most alone?

        I guess, at present…can’t give too much details though.

 •What are your hopes and dreams for what the future holds for me? For my children?

I dream of a good life, peaceful thinking and a happy family without anger and a controlling ego on my part.

 •How has your life been different than what you’d imagined?

Very much different from the way I imagine during my high school days.

 •How would you like to be remembered?

This is a hard question. I want to be remembered as someone worth of her words.

 •Do you have any regrets?

I usually wanted to regret something, but as much as I wanted, I need to suppress it because what is happening isn’t in my control.

•Is there any message you want to give to or anything you want to say to your great-great-great grandchildren when they listen to this?

The only thing I wanted to say to them is;

“Learn the religion of your forefather, which is Islam, and you will never go wrong. Try to be true to yourself, especially to others, because in this way you are not deceiving yourself. Live, Love and be contented of what is given by Allah (swt) through your hard work. One thing as well, I would like to emphasize to male ones not to hurt woman, and be true to the person they are with.”

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